Yet another should I leave him?

acameron1313 · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 13 Mar 2005 Posts: 1

Okay, here is my story. I've been with him for two years now, we were friends and roomates first then when he went through a horrible brake-up I was there to comfort him. Shortly after that we became sexually envolved, about six months after the sex we we "toghter". Now six months ago I moved across the country for him. Which ment leaving my family who means the world to me. So I am very depresed because my sister who is also my best friend had another child who I bearly know. And my other nice who is the most important person in my life calls me every day to tell me to come home. Now why I should leave him. He has told me in the past that although he knows I love him with all my hart he does not love me the same way. He is mean to me on a regular basis, like saying "I should just go home". But I Love him so much and I am so scared I will never find another man. He treats me kinda like a slave, telling me to go get this and do this now!! I guess the major problem is he is my first love, I am 21 years old and never let myself feel before him. I just need a little bit of insight please anyone help!
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Lovelee · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 13 Mar 2005 Posts: 1

Um you deserve more than you are letting yourself have. It is not about this man it is about what you want for yourself. When you say things like he is mean to you or treats you like a slave and you still stay with him you are acknowledging that you are those things. Do you want to be someones SLAVE or have someone be MEAN to you. You should love you first before trying to be with someone else.

babes · Posted: Sun Mar 13, 2005 1:19 pm Post subject:

I understand he's your frst love, but you will love again! You deserve so much better, get out whilst you still can!

sarahb · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 22 Aug 2004 Posts: 12

im in a sorta same position as , its so horrible being so far away from family when u need them most

guilty · Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2005 10:03 am Post subject:

It seams he's making your life a deliberate nightmare to drive you away, he's already told you to go home hun, the message couldnt be clearer, his behaviour will get worse, because youve given him the license to do it .

your family are desperate to have you back, yoru so young love will come along again for you , maybe a few times before you settle down.

take his and your familys advise go home, you dont need this hassle at 21 hun.

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fan · Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 5:43 pm Post subject:

get rid of him hes not the only man on the planet..........you say he is mean and treats you like a slave well why are you letting him?
he tells you to go home because he knows damn well you wont ......dont let this become the way for the future where you cant be with a man unless he treats you bad because thats the only kind of relationship you know there are lots of good kind men out there and you deserve better........your worth more than this

P_1984d · Posted: Mon Mar 21, 2005 7:01 pm Post subject:

You need your family way more than you need this loser. Your family are always there when you need them. Your family gave you life, the most precious thing in the world. Your owe them more than you will ever owe that pr**k. Leaving will be hard, but when it's done you'll be relieved. You are having doubts about being with this guy, is that not reason enough for you to realise? Dont waste anymore years away from your family. I wish I could help

sloan · Posted: Mon Mar 21, 2005 10:14 pm Post subject:

Go, Go, Go!! I recently was in the same situation this past January. I had just moved in with my fiance (at the time) and he freaked out shortly thereafter. I moved out after only 6 weeks. I moved out of the house while he was out of town on business and he was devastated. He "wooed" me back! Although things are still rough, I had to leave before he ever realized he had a good thing going. However, you need to take care of yourself and go home to your family. You are way too young to hang onto this guy. I can't tell you how many boyfriends I have had since 21. Endless opportunites are out there, but you have to leave and take care of yourself, before the next wonderful guy can come along.

preciosa · Posted: Sun Mar 27, 2005 8:05 am Post subject:

When someone says they don´t love u as much as you love them...BELIEVE IT!
I think it´s time for u to go home, seems like you have all your life ahed to make the right decisions and find someone who truly loves you for yourself and not for being a "slave".
This sounds like a matter of low self steem your end, or lack of respect for yourself.
Nobody deserves being treated MEAN, and if it happens once....why would u let it happen again and again?
Leaving is what I would do. Someone that doesn´t love me, does not deseve my time and all the missing out with the family.

Good luck dear!

JamesWard · Posted: Tue Mar 29, 2005 10:59 pm Post subject:

I didn't actually read your post but my adivice is if you ever have to ask a forum this question the answer is yes you should leave him. Everyone deserve the kind of love where you have no doubts. I didn't say everything is always perfect but you should never have to doubt if he is the soulmate.

lethally_blonde29 · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 26 Mar 2005 Posts: 11

u deserve a guy who treats u better and respects u very much, no matter what !!

Sheeps · Posted: Sat Apr 02, 2005 8:28 am Post subject:

You say you're scared you won't get anyone else? Rubbish! You're only 21!
You deserve much better than this loser.

If you want to be a doormat, want a miserable life, then yes - stay. You'll become more and more distant from your family, more and more attached to someone who doesn't even love you - and in 20 years time you'll look back on a wasted life.
You frankly deserve better - and you know it. You don't have to post on a forum to know that.

By the way, leave, get out with some friends and within a couple of days you'll find someone to have a laugh with - maybe even someone to "go out seriously" with. You certainly have nothing to be worried about on that score.