Really Need Advice

Rainbow Girl · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 03 Mar 2005 Posts: 2

Hello,

This is my first post here. I am facing a big decision and just don't know what to do. All advice very welcome.

A few months ago I split with my bf. We'd been dating for about 9 months and had had several splits during that time. It all got very nasty and we were both hurt.

Now he's back in touch. Has told me he has been chatting to woman from internet on phone. Now she wants to meet him. He has asked me if there is any chance of us being together or not. He says he still loves me and wants me. Basically, he says if I definitely want him back he won't meet her. But if there is not a chance he will go and meet her.

The thought of him with someone else upsets me but I am not certain that I want to start seeing him again.

I just don't know what to do. I had my reasons for breaking up. I do care for him but, at the same time, I know it's not fair to keep him hanging on.

What to do??

forum member · Posted: Sun Mar 13, 2005 1:28 pm Post subject:

its not always easy to see ex's move on even if you were the one to break things up

Like you said you had your reasons so keep those in mind and LET him move on. If you give him hope while you're not sure then it'll make things worse and he'll feel like you lead him on.

sara16 · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 11 Mar 2005 Posts: 11

ok if you go back with this guy your pretty much saying no dont be with her be with me and hes saying well if you wont tkae me bak then ill settle for the next best thing wich is saying that he doenst think he needs to that much

OverTheRainbow · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 15 Mar 2005 Posts: 4

You mentioned that while dating, you split up several times and it got very nasty. Remind yourself of this and all the reasons why you broke up. As hard as it can be dealing with an ex boyfriend who is dating again, that's no reason to get back together.

preciosa · Posted: Sun Mar 27, 2005 8:22 am Post subject:

Let him go Rainbow Girl!

He´s doing a little of blackmail, it works only if you are weak enough.
My ex bf did the same to me once. I fell, then he did it again, then I refused him and let him go, then he called back telling it had been all a lie to get me back.....whatever this strategy sounds poor.

You had reasons to break up, fair enough. Keep them in mind, think of those nasty moments and of course you do not want them back.
Give him the chance to go and meet this woman. You will find someone else that may suit you better.

All the best!

sloan · Posted: Wed Apr 06, 2005 7:40 pm Post subject:

I think he is trying to manipulate you into seeing him again. You have to decide what is best for you in the long run. If you want him back and think you can make it work, then go for it. If you don't, then let him go to meet this other girl. You will move on and find someone else yourself too eventually. But, I really don't think he has an interest in this girl if he would ask you what to do. He's trying to "pull" you back in.

The ball's in your court, so to speak.

DimensionX · Posted: Thu Apr 07, 2005 3:12 pm Post subject: