cheated three times & don't know what to do

[Fred75]

Wow, what a lot of overreactions.

She's a teenager for heavens sake. She's got teenage angst. She's fundamentally a decent person trying to work out how to handle the complexities of developing relationships.

To her, going out with one guy, and kissing another is cheating! OK that's my interpretation, but I bet I'm right.

If she hasn't found the right guy, that's fine, time will mend that one. If she wants to play the field that's fine too, she needs to meet a few guys and get to know them in order to learn what works for her. She's more honest than most, and feels guilty more quickly than most.

friday, just tell your current b/f how you feel. Tell him you still enjoy hanging out with him and are looking forward to the holiday, but also make it clear to him that this isn't the big one. Then have fun and stop stressing about it. Uni will sort him out, and probably you too (are you going to uni?). You don't have to decide on your life partner for at least 10 years, and you've still got a lot of frogs to kiss.

P.S. Can I be a frog.

All of the above are exactly why she shouldn't be having sex with guys YET.
She's not mentally mature enough.
So these girls THINK they are adults and THINK the giving way of their bodies means nothing to them.
This all adds up to producing another jaded and callous FF woman!

[MaxtheGaul]

So Fred, how do you explain that one of the most caring, self assured, confident and genuinely nice women I have met had had more men by the age of 19 than you've had hot meals?!

I know. Database error, statistical analysis module bug in correlation sub-system.



P.S. Actually computers don't have hot meals.

[friday13th]

Thanks for the more compassionate advice. I guess I struggle to see why I'm being so battered for admitting what I've done is wrong and wondering what to do about it. I will speak to him... and want to be a frog? We'll see!

[MaxtheGaul]

I want to be a frog.

[Cambridge]

Wow, what a lot of overreactions.

She's a teenager for heavens sake. She's got teenage angst. She's fundamentally a decent person trying to work out how to handle the complexities of developing relationships.

To her, going out with one guy, and kissing another is cheating! OK that's my interpretation, but I bet I'm right.

If she hasn't found the right guy, that's fine, time will mend that one. If she wants to play the field that's fine too, she needs to meet a few guys and get to know them in order to learn what works for her. She's more honest than most, and feels guilty more quickly than most.

friday, just tell your current b/f how you feel. Tell him you still enjoy hanging out with him and are looking forward to the holiday, but also make it clear to him that this isn't the big one. Then have fun and stop stressing about it. Uni will sort him out, and probably you too (are you going to uni?). You don't have to decide on your life partner for at least 10 years, and you've still got a lot of frogs to kiss.

P.S. Can I be a frog.

Erm, Max, how do teenagers learn but by asking advice from those older and wiser. It's a normal process. Why do you protest?

Friday, you are not being battered for admitting what you did is wrong. You are receiving some criticism for trying to defend it at the same time. You did wrong, ok? Listen to the women on the thread. They're telling you that you are young and you need to grow up before you can ever achieve anything like a real relationship. You don't have that with your bf; hence you are careless about that bond. They are telling you that you need to enter the world of realization of what is going on before you can value a one-on-one connection. Wait. Let it develop on its own.

[Verve]

You're so sweet for still trying Cambridge, Bravo to you.

[tobinfest]

I am in tune with Cambridge, but also listen to the advice of the ladies.
You cheated, sweetie, now deal with it. Your heart is probably elsewhere and it will happen for you, probably without consequence. Have a heart and discuss it with your b/f and be honest and say that it isn't clicking. It is not his choice, to accept your lifestyle. It is all you, hun. If he was the one, you wouldn't be doing the other stuff.
You will grow and learn and develop, in time. Find yourself, but at least let your b/f off the hook. If you do, it will speak volumes about you. If you don't, it will also be very telling. Up to you.

[rosie727]

if its over hun its over, why prolong the agony for him. let him down easy so you can both move on