Hate Games, but i feel i must play one

[another guest]

So, i've been married, separated. Met a great guy and sparks certainly flew and a real genuine, like. This being after 12 months of separation, so no rebound there.

We spent a few days together, after lengthy chats, emails for a few months really got to know each other, but without expectations on meeting.

20 text messages went back and forward whilst he was returning home, and an email from the airport... "you let me know where we go from here".

It could be a long distance relationship, for now but with a future.

So, i did...

But, i smell fear, you know, she aint going to wait for that, she'll be off and running, she's ready for a relationship.. she's opened like a flower...

No, he's not married.

So, his emails are cryptic lines, suggesting that after a week since he left, i may have come down to earth a bit and see things differently now, like okay, your right, i should find a man here.... checking, checking.

I laid the cards on the table... So, do you like me? I'm prepared to see on our next meet and take it from there.

He just keeps being a little cryptic almost like he has no faith in what i am saying, rather thinks i'm on a new journey of discovery. But, has written each night since he returned as well.

On the same accord... I am not nieve, so i'm only prepared to be straight forward and say i'm prepared to see, or else...

How do i get him to answer my question?

Seems, he's still feeling my thoughts out here and i'm not about to go all mushy etc,

What would you do?

Play the game, make him chase?

[Guest]

I dont fully understand your email as you type int he third person - very confusing. Saying that maybe i dont need to read it. Games are S*** and unproductive - dont do it, whats the point really?

[Guest]

[another guest]

Okay, so two people meet after communication for 6 months, with no intentions rather, lets see where this goes from there once you've met.

He lives over seas, you 24 hrs away..by plane. He intends to live in your Country and you do appreciate and know that to be correct, so no assumptions.

You get on really well but only have a short time together.

So, as a woman you totally let go and trust this person sexually and that in itself goes to a level neither expected.

Now there is a question mark. Do you wait 18 months with being able to see each other, say every 4 - 6 months in-between, does that actually happen can two people do that.

He questions that you have found your soul, inner soul, sexual self you will be off and running... Your ready for a relationship.

You say, sex is sex, i am not shallow, i want it all, so i'm prepared to wait for a few months until our next meet to see...

He is still fishing, assuming that you wont.

So, he has sent 20 text messages, emailed, from the airport obviously thinking wanting it to be true but then questions again, in his emails, by asking if you've come back down to earth, as if it was a "moment" and again, what woman would wait?

So, the question was, how do i explain without being mushy that when a woman knows something is worth checking out first, before going down that next road, then she knows.

I am not nieve in other words, not in love, but it clicked so i want to see from here.

Finding what i found in its totality is rare, laughter, sexual perfection together, and intelligence.

Why would i "give it up " for just 1/2 of that, i want to see? Then decide, just feel he thinks it's too good to be true.

I waited 12 months after separation regarding sex, so i think he's thinking i'm just in lust.

Well, yes.. But, i found someone on a lot of levels, over 6 months that corresponded with reality on meeting, that was a lot of what i want, including sex, but not pertaining totally to.

So, yes i don't believe in games either... Just trying to work out how to make him believe that women can actually be prepared for a man to wait and see, on a next meet, then make their decision from there.

I feel that he thinks i am sexually awakened and consequently want all of what was felt, daily, not wait and see.

Ahhh how else can i put it? lol