Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 1:25 pm Post subject: losing bladder control
You are all talking about wetting yourselves as if it's fun, and maybe it is for you, but what about the embarrassment factor? I also try to hold in my pee for as long as I can, mainly because I'm too busy or lazy to go to the toilet. Or rather, I used to. A few months ago at work I was desperately trying to finish a document to email by a deadline, and needed the loo intensely, but thought I'd wait and get the work done first. I got the work done and emailed off, stood up, and something about the weight of my full bladder moving suddenly just snapped something, and I peed myself in front of everyone who works in my office. Some laughed, some looked paralysed with embarrassment. I froze, then tried to laugh it off, then burst into tears. A couple of my kinder colleagues sorted me out with some clean clothes, and most people at work haven't mentioned it since, or have only mentioned it in a concerned way, asking if I'm 'over' it, but, frankly, I'm not. I feel ashamed all the time, and when I think back to the event, it's mental agony - I actually stood there weeping uncontrollably in the ladies loo while my colleagues peeled me sodden pants and trousers and tights off me - how can I forget about or live with that? Have any of you got any idea of the levels of humilliation experienced by people who don't wet themselves by choice?
lisa, what happened to you was an unaviodable and unsought accident and I'm relieved to hear that your colleagues responded sympatheticially. To put in its context, however, it was an accident and nothing more than that. You've no reason either to reproach yourself for it or regard it as a major humiliation. Far worse things can - and do - happen.
Upbringing and conditioning are often responsible for negative attitudes to bodily functions and, by extension, to accidents when they happen. Because of the way western society is, most people have it drummed into them at an early age that they must control their bladder and bowels at all times, only ever emptying them into a toilet. In the main that's common sense and it makes the world a sweeter place that it would otherwise be. However it does have the unintended consequence that for some people at least, on the rare occasions that they do have an accident during adult life, it's a 'big deal' and something to get upset about. Most people have at least one or two accidents during the course of adult life as a result of fear, shock, being unable to access a toilet when needed or simply putting off going for too long. For some it's a major trauma but others take it in their stride and put it down to experience.
Also, I know it sounds strange (although it's no more so than liking leathers, BDSM or feet) but some people find the sensation of a full bladder/rectum - or even that of wetting/soiling themselves a huge turnon. Others enjoy watching the event or hearing about it. So long as the parties concerned are comfortable with it, there's no reason to condemn such activities. I'm a wet enthusiast and whilst I can't speak for all wet enthusiasts, most of us are only turned on either by wetting ourselves or hearing about someone else doing it who's happy to do it. I, for one, get no pleasure from hearing about the humiliation of people such as yourself to whom it's a big deal.
Last edited by Ady6970 on Tue Jun 03, 2008 5:55 pm; edited 4 times in total
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Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 3:16 pm Post subject: holding your pee
Hiya,
Firslty let me say to Ady what a lovely sensitive response that was. Then let me agree with what Ady says......an accident like yours isnt comfortable.....it happens, possibly more times than you know......I too love the sensation of a full bladder and with my g/f apply that to our sex life with each other.
As ady says tho there is no pleasure in reading a story like yours.....we are afterall human and have feelings for our fellow men and women.
Sorry it happenned to you...........move on........its over.
Lisa, Ady is right. What happened to you was an accident. You didn't plan or choose to wet yourself, and it was extremely embarrassing when you did. Yours was a case of putting off going to the bathroom for too long, and you peed your pants. Most people are brought up with the mindset that bathroom matters are something you keep private and are uncomfortable to even mention it. The people who did help you out and/or who have expressed concern afterwards are who understand your level of embarrassment - chances are a few of them may have peed themselves in their adult life too and can truly relate.
Lisa - this reply is pointless in a way, as it's all been said before, but OTOH I hope you'll feel encouraged to hear yet another person with the same message of reassurance, and less worried that the world is full of people taking pleasure in your misfortune. I'm sure there are one or two, as there will always be people with a genuinely cruel or sadistic streak who like to hurt others in some way, but just as with BDSM the number who want to inflict "genuine" things against the will of the recipient is small.
Your story did not turn me on, and if I'd witnessed it I would have felt nothing but sympathy for you.
When people have accidents in a "wetting fetish" context it is, ultimately, because they want to - i.e. they deliberately put themselves in the position where they might or will at some point lose control. They may be turned on by the risk of having one, in the same way that some like the thrill of sex in public because of the risk of getting caught. They may like the humiliation that they get from being seen to wet themselves in public, and what they feel may well be the same as what you felt, but for them that's what they want. Their eventual accident may be as real as yours in the sense that they don't pee themselves deliberately, but they do put themselves in the position of risk deliberately.
Let me make an analogy with physical pain. Even if you probably don't do it, and may not understand why some people do, you must know that some like pain, and see it in a sexual context. If someone were to bend you over and paddle your bare behind until it was red and stinging, you'd be in pain. So would someone who wanted it - the pain would be no different, the pain would be just as genuine, but what would be different is that they would want it that way. And in 99.whatever % of people administering the paddling they wouldn't for a moment consider doing it to someone who didn't want it.
And so it is with your accident - the circumstances may be the same, and the embarrassment may be the same, but you were an unwilling participant in all that, and only a tiny number of people would take any pleasure from that. Those of us here who talk about pee-play in one form or other do so in the context of willing participation.
What a collection of sensitive posts - I'm impressed. I discovered that being desperate to pee turns me on whilst I was seeing how much I can hold - training myself so that I don't wet myself. My job often means that I can't pee for 8 hours+ so I keep my bladder well trained. It is important to have good control and to know how much longer I can last, I've actually never wet myself and when I test myself, I always choose to pee cos of the pain, not loss of control.
I'm a military pilot. I don't get unexpected urges...my bladder is predictable, just getting more uncomfortable, then painful as it fills (and bulging out more)! I don't understand people who dance around and hold themselves, perhaps they feel things differently to me.
To me its just a natural reaction to fidget when I have to go. If I am concious of it I will stop it as it really doesn't help me but I find myself doing it without realizing it when I do have to go.
I find it hard to believe you never leak at all though. You must have a much stronger bladder then most women.
I've never leaked or felt in danger of leaking. I get an ache, then pain and a bulge as my bladder fills. I don't have to work to hold it in, it stays in until I let it go, it just gets very painful and looks as though I'm pregnant. Is it different for most other women then?
Not that I am any expert but I know for me and the few friends that I have talked to about it. they have leaked at lessed a few different times in there lifetime. It may only be enough to make a wet spot on there knickers but enough to know that some definately came out. I think it usually happens when they are doing something and not jsut standing or sitting still.
I've never leaked or felt in danger of leaking. I get an ache, then pain and a bulge as my bladder fills. I don't have to work to hold it in, it stays in until I let it go,
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