MIL Stress

[Wisegirl?]

Hello,I wonder if any one has had a similar experience and what they would suggest???

Before wedding everything was fine with my MIL-even though her only child -from a different religion and race-in this day and age you do not think it would be a probem...............


4 weeks before the wedding she started to stress/asking me repeatedly what the indian wedding would be like-I had explained to her 50times over and even arranged handouts for the guests. Days before the wedding she kept on saying .ohhhhhhh wander what drama you will have at your wedding-all weddings must have one.

She was so strange at the indian wedding-told me (the bride-that she was not having a gd time).

Then the next day at the christiian wedding she was fine until about 20 mins before I walked down the isle(then she felt unwell-telling my husband to be). I walked down the aisle got married and as we were leaving to get our photos done-she started to faint-and surprising she called me-I went up to her and asked the best man to take care off her. How rude. Anyhow I saw her the next day and she was jumping around with her family \and booking siteseeing tours-strange!

When my husband asked her why she had been rude to me at the indian wedding-she said "what wedding-i do not have any memories of it-looking forward to getting the video"

Then we went on our honey moon over xmas-the day before we left she told us she was dying with cancer-and did not want treatment-so we went to see her. That was not the case we found when we spoke to the doctors-she had a type of cancer they could not identify yet-without test etc...i understand that this was horrid for her but she made it out to be so much worse-and wanted us to cancel our honey moon, when my husband said no-she said I will call you everyday to give you updates-and she asked for all her family members to do that(call us) .

So the morning we went on honeymoon we had to email all my hubbys family telling them we are going away to have anice time -please leave us alone-the mothers condition willl not be decided for a few weeks as the docs said.

So we went away-and yes she did put a cloud over our honeymoon-i think decent parents would be considerate and not tell there children news as such until they knew for sure if they were going away on honeymoon.It was not a nice honeymoon either-all the time worrying incase she freaked and demanded us back(only to find that there is not alot going on)

So now -I have not spoken to her since-why should I? I plan to do the family thing-which is support my husband -but nothing at all to do with her.

I found out she is having a big family reunion soon-my hubby is going-but I do not want to see this woman-as I am still so angry about what she did to me a few weeks ago.

Its not just that-she is always nasty and put me down, i really cant face her-but feel i "should do the family thing"-i feel that she never did for my wedding so why should i now?

Any advice?

[Guest]

Yes. You go to the function. Put a smile on your face and give her a hug. She's your husband's mother. Get through the day and go home without nagging your husband about his mother.

Or, if you want a marriage of heartache and problems shun her and make yourself miserable.