MY SONS GIRLFRIEND

[Kathy]

MY SON HAS BEEN GOING OUT WITH A GIRL FOR 12 MONTHS AND SHE IS REALLY LOVELY WELL THAT WAS UNTILL SHE HAS SORTER MOVED IN WITH US, WEVE NEVER BEEN ASKED IF ITS OK BUT MY SON ASKED IF SHE COULD STAY OVER THEY ARE BOTH IN THE 20 SO I AGREED DIDNT THINK IT WAS GOING TO BE FOR THIS LONG. THE THING IS SHE TREATS MY HOUSE AND MY OTHER CHILDREN LIKE SHE OWNES THE PLACE, SHE USES ALL THE HOT WATER PUT HER THINGS IN THE WASHING MACHINE BUT TAKES OURS OUT BEFORE SHE USES IT RATHER THAN PUT EVERYTHING IN TOGETHER, SHE HELPS HERSELF TO ALL OUR FOOD BUT HAS NEVER CONTRIBUTED TO ANYTHING MONEY WISE. HOW DO I EITHER GET HER OUT AND BACK WITH HER PARENTS WITHOUT CAUSING TROUBLE WITH MY SON. WE DONT TAKE ANY MONEY OFF OUR CHILDREN WE JUST ASK THEM TO PUT IN TO A SAVINGS ACCOUNT FOR THEM FOR LATER IN LIFE

[Tim]

This IS later in life. They need to be pushed out of the nest, Tell them, gently, it is time they both moved into a place of their own, preferably tomorrow.

[Fatlisa]

Tell them it is your house and you want some respect. Say that you want to be considered and there is certain rules that need to be taken notice of. Tell her if she wants to walk around like she owns the place then she needs to get her own place.

Don't let her walk all over you tell her how you feel or tell them that you are not happy with them being under your roof and treating it like they are.

[kathy]

Well we all ended up having strong words yesterday, because she went and had a bath after out tea they were both going out and she walked out of the bathroom wearing my robe. I told her that was the last straw, its mine and know one else should be wearing it or wanting to wear it, she told me hers was in the dryer but got all defensive. We all had our words and now they have both made me feel like I am to picky which isnt the case at all I just want her or even both of them to move out and give us our home back. The thing is I am to soft with everyone, I dont really like be nasty its not in my nature but I do think I am being taken advantage of

[Fatlisa]

It is you home and you can say what you want. Tell them if they want to do what they want they need to get their own home.

[Kathy]

I think your rght Im going to have to say something like that

[Fatlisa]

They should respect the fact it is your home and you are letting them stay for nothing, if they can't respect that then they need to move out.

[MissJackie23]