If a MIL is interfering tell them straight. Its not easy I know, and no-one wants disharmony, but the fact is, if you let it go on and on it will only get worse. Saying to yourself "Oh I dont want to cause any problems" in the long run ends up causing exactly that.
If a MIL is making you out to be unimportant, then tell her you are not happy with her attitude and say it is not healthy for your child. Worst come to the worst, dont allow your kids near her. Obviously your partner might not see it that way...but hes got to decide whats more important; his partner and kids or "mummy". It is your family - not hers, make that clear to her!
Posted: Sun Jan 07, 2007 11:56 pm Post subject: mil from hell but thinks she's from heaven
Hello all, I came across this site through google when i typed in 'nasty mother in law' and I am so glad there are others to talk with about this subject.
I am almost 27 and my husband has just turned 42 so there is 15 years between us, therefore my MIL thinks I am no good for her son as 'I will only run off with someone younger in years to come', she doesn't see that we're in love or happy and always refers to me as a bitch to her other sons and daughter and has evan called me a bitch over the phone (to me).
She is catholic and I am C of E and we got married in my church which she hated, she came to the wedding but walked out just as I was about to walk down the isle and couldn't bring herself to smile on the photo's not evan the one of her and Tom (my hubby) by themselves.
Before we were married at the begining of our engagement she had been diagnosed with depression for 3 years, never leaving the house for all that time, so having worked with mental health I felt for her , but the second we were engaged she sudddenly came out of herself enough to tell me every time my husband was out of the room that we were going to get married in the catholic church finger wagging and all! needless to say I stopped going round and it took me a while to tell my darling hubby because no-one else ever heard this and she was supposed to be depressed! My husband had never seen any bad in his mum but he BELIEVED ME!
I know my husband Loves me so have trusted him in what to do with his own mother, I have nothing to do with her now and never will, her youngest son who has a drink and drug problem can shove me afew times (bearing in mind he is 6ft 2 and 13-14 stone and I am 5ft 4 and 9 stone) and so I defended myself and yet I apparently punched him in the face 24 times! it's laughable really but it can get you down, but I have the most wonderfull husband it's so hard to believe that he came from her seriously! He supports me and if she puts me down he tells her where to go. But one things for sure she has signed a contract to NEVER see any grandchild that comes from my body unless it's a photo from one of my bro or sis in law, as I'm not having a nasty old cow like that putting my mothering or child down! and shes supposed to be a good catholic, what a load of b0ll0ckz
Ohhhhhh get the violin out!.......
the mother-in-laws who feel they have to get involved such as the above, AGAIN, about things you have nothing to do with - GET A LIFE!
(Hey girls, this is probably the same idiot who's posting horrible things on the mother-in-law dilema topic)..
Joined: 18 Jan 2007 Posts: 17121 Location: aiyeeee....dat good pie!
Posted: Thu Jan 18, 2007 8:44 am Post subject:
my brother keeps harping about how nasty his wife's mom is, but she seems alright to me. If someone were to interfere with me and my wife (I'm not married at the moment), I would put an end to it quick, fast, and in a hurry. Of course, I would also try to get along with the inlaws BEFORE I walked the aisle!
As a mother in law whose daughter in law feels like you pathetic women, I say it's fine with me! I have 4 other children who I get along absolutely wonderful with their spouses. I miss not knowing my grandchildren, but I have 11 others to keep me busy and well loved. My son chose a no-load woman who thought the answer to all their money problems was ASK MUMMY! I said no. They've been mad ever since and are in their own private war that I want nothing to do with. I miss the young man that I raised and maybe some day he will want back into the family circle and we will be there for him. Unfortunately, she is not welcome in my house, although I would never turn her away. I wouldn't be surprised if she is one of these young women crying unfair. You girls are not innocent bystanders beaten up by an old woman. Give us a break.
It will come as a shock to them when the will is read.
I'm sure I speak on behalf of all mistreated DIL's when I say "Likewise - you heartless cow"!! It's saddo's like you that don't have a life, sit on your ass all day calculating ways to make your daughter in law's life a misery. Get a life, seriously!!!
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needless to say I stopped going round and it took me a while to tell my darling hubby because no-one else ever heard this and she was supposed to be depressed! My husband had never seen any bad in his mum but he BELIEVED ME! 
