my bloke cums 2 fast ALWAYS

[Lucyinthesky]

Okay, dilemma.....my guy cums SUPER fast. Like, American Pie....Jim & Nadia fast. I sit on his dick once and it's a write off. Not only that, but he's ALWAYS wanting to do it, and i never do, because i always know how it's going to end up......also, i'm really shy about asking him to work on this.....so i dont want to hand him one of those desensitizing condoms, i'll feel like an asshole. good god help me before i start humping everything else in sight, but him!

[me xxx]

Yeah i have the same problem!!! Also if a guy says that he hasn't had it for a while, could that be the reason why he's cumming quickly?

[A Man]

I went through a phase of having P.E. and it wasn't pleasant because I KNEW that I was frustrating my girlfriend. You say that your man wants it all the time. That could be because he's beating himself up emotionally for not being able to satisfy you, and he wants 'another attempt' to get his P.E. out of his system ASAP.(You ever heard of the saying 'When you fall off a horse, it's best to get back on'?). In turn your man's anxiety will probably be eating him up and he will KNOW that you will be thinking of other men as a result of his failure. This will be making him feel even MORE of a failure! How's he supposed to perform to standard with that on his mind!? Sex between a couple shouldn't just be about 'Hey, you! Make me come!' anyway.
How I cured mine was as soon as I came, I went down on my gf until I was hard again. Less spray=more play! We just kept doing that until I was back to my old self. (There were times when I could last so long, my gf thought that I wasn't turned enough by her, but that's another story entirely!)
My advice? Get your man into the bedroom, empty his sack and then make him have sex with you again! You should be enjoying the practice, not stressing over it!

[open]

I have to agree with A Man on this one. Except, I would add... why doesn't he go down on you first and get you close so that the initial penetration would make you both cum?? Also a little trick for spice that may slow the process.... crushed ice in the cheeks during a foreplay blow-job ... he'll need to get his body temperature back before he will be able to ejaculate... may get a dozen extra thrusts with that one.

[mostirreverent]

He needs to cum before sex with you. He may also need to train himself, by thinking it does not feel as good as it does. Sex is work! Men tread a fine line between coming, trying not to come, and loosing a hard on because they are trying to convince themselves it does not feel so good. It will become easier as he ages too.

PE sounds funny. It is the nature of the beast. We are supposed to come fast, yet we are forced not too. It is always “men come too fast”, and never “women come too slow”. Obviously, five strokes should be worked on, but other than that, women need to work to make themselves come faster. There have been plenty of times that through the annoyance of a bad blowjob that I found myself not sensing enough pleasure to come. I simply concentrated on some physical sensation and multiplied it in my mind until I forced myself to come. I did so as I would rather come then not.

[myutopia]

There's probably a lot of causes of PE and can become a vicious circle, He may feel nervous, HE PE's and feels frustrated at not pleasuring you fully and feels under pressure to perform.

I used to be the same some time ago, I think most men at some point have been, I was with my current girlfriend when we first slept together, She was really HOT and when we made love she wanted to were these really sexy thigh high suede leather boots....... I digress.

The point is I was pretty worked up before we even got undressed. The next time we made love we had lot's and lots of foreplay and used toys on each other I'd say it lasted about an hour and a half during which I came twice but we kept on going. Then we had sex I lasted a lot longer but now had my confidence up and all the pressure seemed to lift.

The third time we did lot's of foreplay and used more toy's, we also tried more different positions. The best one was with her on top of me, we both went for ages and orgasmed at the same time which was fantastic. Love making is now so fantastic I can't get enough.

I hope this is some help to you.

[One Who Knows]

Compared to some male sexual disorders premature ejaculation (PE) is easy to fix. Have him go to the doctor, explain the situation and ask to be put on a low dose of an SSRI antidepressent such as Prozac or better still, Paxil. It won't change his mood or have any other effect if he is not depressed. What it will do is make him last much longer.

[mostirreverent]

Interesting thought! Yes it is true; these drugs often have these effects, though I think Wellbutrin does not. I don’t advice mucking around with serotonin or other neurotransmitters and such unless there is a severe need. These drugs can also affect overall desire as well. Viagra might be a better choice.

[just some guy]

ok, firsly, im just a guy who happened apon your site and got nosey,
tell him he is crap, hes just being greedy and selfish, EVERY man can hold back for a while beleive me.... and no he is not beaing himself up emmotioninaly.. just dosent care enough to make sure him girl is happy too, TELL HIM ! and dont be gentle about it.

[Guest]

Oh great advice, Just some Guy. Blame him and pressure him. Make him feel he's a failure. Now that's just bound to improve the relationship and the sex. Guy, my arse.

[HtY]

just some guy is an idiot. A Man had it broadly right. Just insist on endless sex until he gets it right. When he does don't let him go more than 48 hours without or you'll be back to square one. After a month of so of this he will be completely cured. He'll love it by the way.

I had a period when I had had no sex for over a month and when I got lucky (in the morning) I just came (as I entered), but I was so horny I was up for it again in about 5 minutes. This time lasted about 30 seconds. By late afternoon and round 5 I was lasting nearer 30 minutes and by midnight round 8 or nine (I'd lost count by then) I realised that I was probably never going to come, but I had a hard on that wouldn't go away - so we eventually dropped off to sleep and finished the business the next morning.

[newcastlesteve23]

Dunno if its psychological but I always seem to last longer on viagra Could be worth buying him some, either way it'll be a pressie for both of you lol

[just some guy]

Oh great advice, Just some Guy. Blame him and pressure him. Make him feel he's a failure. Now that's just bound to improve the relationship and the sex. Guy, my arse.

yes i DO blame him, and yes i am a male, the guy is a greedy crap lover..what can i say, if you squeeze the base of his C*** hard, he wont cum, but if you dont tell him about the prob, it wont get fixed !

anyway what do u lot know about men your all gullable chicks , ..
emmotionallt beating himself up...funny.l

[just some guy]

I just came (as I entered)

haha LOOOOOOSER !

[mostirreverent]

Lucyinthesky,

Would satisfying you orally and his coming quickly during intercourse be acceptable? The desensitizing condoms are not a bad idea. If not, then you need to tell him and help him stay longer.

While I can hold out, and with age it has become easier, it often takes away from my enjoyment. After all, it is for the man as well. Not that this is in dispute, but I think there is a lot of pressure for the man to make sex good, and men’s desires get lost. Sometimes I wish I it were all just oral.

It sounds like giving him oral first would help him stay longer in addition to him learning to put off coming.