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Open marriage, open mind

Postby open on Thu Dec 30, 2004 6:36 pm

My husband and I have been together for 4 years. My husband is a well-hung, constantly horny, healthy 39-year old. I love making love to him, but despite being 7 years younger, I need a break from getting it everyday (which is only half of what his libido wants btw). We have been seriously discussing having him go outside the marriage to fill in the gaps. I enjoy the thought of him sharing himself as long as I get the details or video afterwards, a phone call during, or am there to witness it. Can a man separate love from sex? Apart from complete honesty, is there a consideration I overlooked?

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Postby amazed on Thu Dec 30, 2004 10:43 pm

Yes yes yes!!

To do that for your husband is great. I have simalar attitude for my wife. I'd love to see her experience other men. I love her dearly and would give my life to save hers. Your open mind attitude is the best marrage anyone can have...... open and honest.

My problem is my wife won't do it because she very uncomfortable with it and would be embarased for my behalf. Go figure

but yes it is possable to separte love and lust!!

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Postby Guest on Thu Jan 06, 2005 5:18 pm

Men can frequently seperate love and lust. I can have sex with a woman, other than my wife, thoroughly enjoying her beauty and the passion of a physcial experience. I enjoy pleasing women orally. In fact, I would love my wife to watch me. I have been in threesomes with married couples and really enjoy being with a wife when her husband watches and participates.

I have met a few women who can seperate love and lust. One woman loved to "put on a show" for me, mounting another man giving me the "behind view" of penetration. It was simply beautiful to watch her "grip" her new lover. She had no attachment to him other than the eroticism of being watched and sharing two men. She especially enjoyed having two men inside her, one in her mouth and one in her pussy.

I suggest that you give your husband permission if he promises to "let you in on it." Stay connected with him about all the details. A man will treasure a woman who understands and embraces his sexuality. Celebrate his preoccupation with pussy and he will never leave you.

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Postby Guest on Thu Jan 06, 2005 5:25 pm

Or he'll put his relationship with you in a different perspective and decide he doesn't get any real benefit being with you. Make sure to get and keep a good handle on the family finances.

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Postby Guest on Thu Jan 06, 2005 5:59 pm

. wrote:Or he'll put his relationship with you in a different perspective and decide he doesn't get any real benefit being with you. Make sure to get and keep a good handle on the family finances.


There go the women again - plotting about the money.

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Postby long-leggedy-annie on Thu Jan 06, 2005 6:02 pm

Sex outside of a relationship is a recipe for disaster

Sex inside a relationship is a recipe for disaster

Be like me - practice abstinence (it makes the heart grow fonder) :?
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Postby colinlloy on Thu Jan 06, 2005 6:10 pm

long-leggedy-annie wrote:Sex outside of a relationship is a recipe for disaster

Sex inside a relationship is a relationship for disaster

Be like me - practice abstinence (it makes the heart grow fonder) :?


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Postby long-leggedy-annie on Thu Jan 06, 2005 6:28 pm

does the edit make more sense ................

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Postby Guest on Thu Jan 06, 2005 6:44 pm

. wrote:
. wrote:Or he'll put his relationship with you in a different perspective and decide he doesn't get any real benefit being with you. Make sure to get and keep a good handle on the family finances.


There go the women again - plotting about the money.


Nope a male with experiance, and more honesty than brains.

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Re: Open marriage, open mind

Postby Zenieth on Thu Jan 06, 2005 7:14 pm

open wrote: I need a break from getting it everyday (which is only half of what his libido wants btw).


Just out of curiousity (or just plain nosiness)...how often is he wanting it and how often is he getting it from you?
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Postby HtY on Thu Jan 06, 2005 7:50 pm

I can't understand why a healthy young woman has a problem with once a day (presumably you get a week off each month). If your man needs it twice a day and you can't handle it perhaps you should set up a menage a trois. Then you would always know who he was with when he wasn't with you and you could give each other holidays by doing double time for a while.

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Re: Open marriage, open mind

Postby Impressed on Thu Jan 06, 2005 8:18 pm

open wrote:Can a man separate love from sex? Apart from complete honesty, is there a consideration I overlooked?


Many can. It might be best if he go to call girls so you know that none of these other girls have an agenda of stealing him away. These girls can get attached too, and start making demands of him.

Can you give him blowjobs or handjobs instead of sex on some days? As his wife it is sort of your duty to keep your man serviced, but at least you are honest and consciencious about your sex lives and looking for ways of making everybody happy.

You are the perfect wife!! Girls - listen to this woman and take notes.

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Postby Guest on Fri Jan 07, 2005 12:15 am

. wrote:
. wrote:Or he'll put his relationship with you in a different perspective and decide he doesn't get any real benefit being with you. Make sure to get and keep a good handle on the family finances.


There go the women again - plotting about the money.


I thought it was a man.

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Postby Guest on Fri Jan 07, 2005 12:16 am

. wrote:
. wrote:
. wrote:Or he'll put his relationship with you in a different perspective and decide he doesn't get any real benefit being with you. Make sure to get and keep a good handle on the family finances.


There go the women again - plotting about the money.


Nope a male with experiance, and more honesty than brains.


Ha! I was right :)

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Postby Guest on Fri Jan 07, 2005 12:17 am

A woman would have answered more emotional.



PLOTTING,my A** !

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