18 1/2, 5 weeks pregnant - terribley confused.

[karmalilly]

I am 5 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend of 3 years is stoked - as well as his family. Im a fulltime worker & 4.0 college student - they've offered to babysit 3 days a week so i can finish college when the baby comes along..I just found out and i've been an avid smoker/coffee drinker from the start - and finding it a bit hard to quit. My parents on the other hand are crushed, I feel as though im being pulled from both sides - being forced to want to continue the pregnancy, and terminate it at the same time. I know financially & physically it'll be tough - i can no longer think about myself, only the baby. I know somehow i'd make it through it - but there goes my chance to travel, and spend my youth as I'd always wish. Either way I'll finish college -....I dunno. I need some 3rd party opinion....so if anyone has words of wisdom, I'd love to hear them...thanks...[/b]

[danielle.]

I am going through the same thing you are. I am 18 and will turn 19 in April. I go to a private college that is hard to pay so my family doesnt want me to go through with it but on the other hand my boyfriends family is excited. I am nervous because it was so unexpected and at the wrong time. I am young and havent even had a chance to live yet and am no where financially stable. I finally decided that I would have it and try my best to give it everything it needs, even though it maybe the wrong choice for me. I am 5 weeks and very sick and that doesnt go along good with being depressed over a new baby. If you need to talk just email me at because I know how you feel and hope that everything works out for you.

[pooba]

I am also 5 weeks pregnant. Having a baby is a wonderful gift from God. He is the one you need to turn to for wisdom and guidence. Think of it this way, you have been chosen to bare one of Gods soles. There is a reason why God has allowed this. Maybe it is to save you from going down the wrong path, maybe it is to incourage others that maybe in the same sitation. I don't have that answer, but there is a reason. I incourage you to search for it. You will be suprised what you find.

"And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one
another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."
Ephesians 4:32

You and your baby will be in my prays.

[Guest]

Hello im 16 and have also just found out im 5 weeks pregnant, ive got in the que for housing, ive been to the doctors, and have enquired about benefits and maternity grant for when i get to that stage, i plan to keep my baby with my boyfriend, and if i can do it at this age then if you want to then i say you go for it, because if u do want to, and u dont then youll regret it, my parents and his parents want me to abort it and also im having to leave college because of it, but it will be worth it when i have my child in my arms.

[nella]

having a baby is the most important decision you can make in your life. you are bringing a human being here and if you are not ready to give up your life , for the next 18 + years, then you should seriously consider terminating the pregnancy. and plese dont lay a whole guilt trip on yourself about doing that either. if you are miserable , your child will know it everyone is so worried about unborn fetusues and then when they get here, no one gives a s#@$. a baby needs constant attention, in fact even when both parents are involved its exhasting. IMHO 18 is way too young to have a child. why give up the best most fun years of your life to be saddled down with so much responsibiltiy?

[jessica1234]

A baby is a gift from god and u wouldnt have gotten pregnant if he didnt want you to ... Right they say everything happens for a reason .. either you can get stronger from it or learn from it right?? U do what you think is best for u and ur baby! Not what the parents want what you and the daddy of the baby want ..no one else should tell you what to do..

[nella]

which god would you be refering to and how do you know its a he and what god is thinkng for that matter?

[Guest]

Since God creates each of us, we can assume He has a reason for doing so. I guess we don't always know what God is thinking, but clearly God does make some things pretty obvious.

[Earl Purple]

You won't be alone at being a parent at 19 and I think in years to come you'll be pleased you kept the baby.

[FatherA]

You need to make the decision here, as it is you that is pregnant and it is your life ahead of you...
It's a tough tough choice, talk to people, find some info out about it all, it's a life changing decision whatever you decide.

[nire198]

I am 25 and 5 weeks pregnant and my husband and I are very excited. However a little over 4 years ago I was also 5 weeks pregnant and not so excited.(My now husband and I had just started dating) I was also an honor student, senior in college, and moving cross country in a few months for a great job. I panicked didn't think it through and had a medical abortion. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think about it however I am not saying it was the wrong descision just a tough one. I have made my personal peace with God. I went through counseling to deal with the guilt and the loss but it still haunts me in a way. You have to make this desicion for you, nobody else can make it for you. Its a very tough one to make and I wish you the best of luck.

[Guest]

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I read your confused issue. Let me tell you, I was 19 when I got pregnant, living with my parents, and not together with the father. I was just going into college and had no idea what I was to do. With some consultation with my parents, we, together as a family, decided to keep the baby and they assured me that they would be there for me every step of the way. I did finish college, and worked my but off throughout the years. I love my son, he's 13 now. but it was so difficult and I missed so much of my youthful 20's, I regret the decission. If I had my chance back, I would have terminated the pregnancy. My son and I have a great relationship and we always have. I am now married and I am 18 weeks pregnant, and this time around it feels soooooo right. Like I said, just because I would have done it differently doesn't mean I feel any differently towards my son, I just realize that I missed so many things that I'll never have ever again. Those years were so important, I didn't even realize it. Good Luck....and no matter what you choose, it'll work out. [quote= guest]

[broken hearted]

I sat and read some of the stories of women who have the wrong idea of what a mother should be. In this day and age I can't believe women are so easily lied to by one another. It makes me sick to think that (a little girl) could think that going out and playing with thier friends justifies killing their own child ,just because they think that they are going to miss out on a few parties in college. If you really want to know what it is to kill a child that you are caring in your body, look up how doctors abort those so called "unwanted" childern. Just go to any abortion web site and see the pictures of children with their arms and legs cut off ,their little bodies black from the neck down where their skin has been burnt off, then on to see the babies brain where it's been sucked out with long tube. After you see this then ask yourself " How important is your own childs life is to you." Any real woman would give their own life to save that of their child, even a mother dog will fight to the end to save her pups. Then I ask you women who would so easily trash your childs life ,is that what "MOTHER" means?

[Diana]

Hi all,

Im 22 years old, and have a 16 month old daughter who is the greatest joy in my life.I became pregnant at 19 and at the time was going to university in australia. My boyfriend of two years had just moved back to california, we were going to have a long distance relationship until i found out i was pregnant. Abortion was not an option for me, and neither was adoption. So ended up moving to california and marrying my boyfriend. We've been married for almost 2 yrs now i love him and my daughter with all my heart. But being a wife and a mother at a very young age is hard. I had to quit school, and raise a child on my own, he goes to work during the day, and school at night. My education and dreams are on hold for now.It is very hard, i miss my family and feel very depressed sometimes, because i know this is not the life they wanted for me.
Aside form this, i know i did whats best for my daughter, and will work hard to give her a happy life.

[Lizzi]

To broken hearted - this forum is for people who are really struggling with a whole host of emotions about pregnancy and everything that goes with it, comments like yours dont help.