18 1/2, 5 weeks pregnant - terribley confused.

[Guest]

I am 25 and 5 weeks pregnant and my husband and I are very excited. However a little over 4 years ago I was also 5 weeks pregnant and not so excited.(My now husband and I had just started dating) I was also an honor student, senior in college, and moving cross country in a few months for a great job. I panicked didn't think it through and had a medical abortion. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think about it however I am not saying it was the wrong descision just a tough one. I have made my personal peace with God. I went through counseling to deal with the guilt and the loss but it still haunts me in a way. You have to make this desicion for you, nobody else can make it for you. Its a very tough one to make and I wish you the best of luck.

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YOU CAN CAGE ABORTION IN 'It only your choice' but the fact remains: THE ONLY CHOICE IS "TO KILL A BABY" and WHAT CHOICE DID THAT BABY HAVE? We have got to get our heads out of the sand and recognize abortion for what it really is....a CHOICE TO KILL our own. And yes we must live with that fact that we did kill our baby for the rest of our lives. Hell on earth!

[lesm]

I am 25 and 5 weeks pregnant and my husband and I are very excited. However a little over 4 years ago I was also 5 weeks pregnant and not so excited.(My now husband and I had just started dating) I was also an honor student, senior in college, and moving cross country in a few months for a great job. I panicked didn't think it through and had a medical abortion. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think about it however I am not saying it was the wrong descision just a tough one. I have made my personal peace with God. I went through counseling to deal with the guilt and the loss but it still haunts me in a way. You have to make this desicion for you, nobody else can make it for you. Its a very tough one to make and I wish you the best of luck.

Was your husband the father of the aborted baby?
If so how did he feel about it?

[mart]

karmalilly wrote:
I am 5 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend of 3 years is stoked - as well as his family. Im a fulltime worker & 4.0 college student - they've offered to babysit 3 days a week so i can finish college when the baby comes along..I just found out and i've been an avid smoker/coffee drinker from the start - and finding it a bit hard to quit. My parents on the other hand are crushed, I feel as though im being pulled from both sides - being forced to want to continue the pregnancy, and terminate it at the same time. I know financially & physically it'll be tough - i can no longer think about myself, only the baby. I know somehow i'd make it through it - but there goes my chance to travel, and spend my youth as I'd always wish. Either way I'll finish college -....I dunno. I need some 3rd party opinion....so if anyone has words of wisdom, I'd love to hear them...thanks...[/b]


Did you keep the baby?

[DC73]

When in doubt, have the baby. Why kill an innocent life?
Adoption is always the better option.

For those here who ended up having their baby....let us know.

[danna]

"You will always remember the child you never knew here on earth. The memory is not wiped away with the healing — only the tears"

Paul would be 15 next month had I let him live.

[mary my]

OK, so have any of ya after the abortion....did ya find everything wrong with your mum? Do ya still do it? I do. I also drink a lot and shop a lot. I'm also short tempered with my kids at times. My DH is always on me case about all of it. Is it all related to the abortion? especially still dumping on me mum? I thought I was healed [it's been 7 yrs]. What do ya think? What do ya do to change it all? Thanks.

[The wise dude]

My gf's 1 week pregnant , both of us turnin 19 this year .. so wut am I to do but say true she Doesnt Wanna Keep it cuz of her parents,college & her fame got her boiled up...It was our mistake & me shootin in spearm it was an accident..She wants to leave me cuz shes confused,whenever I make it up to her she doesnt wanna gimme a chance..Shes affraid Ill blast it in again..I told her ill be responsible, missery is all I see thats my minds state..I dont mind marryin her,livin wit it & work part time cuz im in college..but our family's poor..This is Malaysia & our dammn parents aint open minded to..im so confused & now im startin to feel the pressure..got my baby on my back..Loads to think of..I just wish she could keep it & so I can see wuts comin ill be prepared & all .. hope things turn up well..I love her alot,wanna live a life wit her..It's all meant to be like a wise man said,hope she doesnt leave me It aint fair!!

[suzi2]

To: The wise dude


Encourage her to talk to these people for some fast help http://www.pregnancycenters.org/


Let us know what she decides.

[JoanK]

OK, so have any of ya after the abortion....did ya find everything wrong with your mum? Do ya still do it? I do. I also drink a lot and shop a lot. I'm also short tempered with my kids at times. My DH is always on me case about all of it. Is it all related to the abortion? especially still dumping on me mum? I thought I was healed [it's been 7 yrs]. What do ya think? What do ya do to change it all? Thanks.

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[GracieS]

OK, so have any of ya after the abortion....did ya find everything wrong with your mum? Do ya still do it? I do. I also drink a lot and shop a lot. I'm also short tempered with my kids at times. My DH is always on me case about all of it. Is it all related to the abortion? especially still dumping on me mum? I thought I was healed [it's been 7 yrs]. What do ya think? What do ya do to change it all? Thanks.

O'h does this sound familiar. I dumped on me mum for everything and she stood by me anyways. It's been 10 years for me and I am just realizing all the heartache I cause because of my selfish mindless act all those years ago. I love me mum and do everything I can to make up for how terrible I was verbally. I think she knows but I think she is afraid of me hurting her again. Don't ruin your marriage. Ask Jesus to guide you everyday not just on Sunday. This has helped me the most - to change me inside and what I think.

[Guest]

Yeah, asking jesus to help will solve all your problems

[Winky89]

My gf's 1 week pregnant , both of us turnin 19 this year .. so wut am I to do but say true she Doesnt Wanna Keep it cuz of her parents,college & her fame got her boiled up...It was our mistake & me shootin in spearm it was an accident..She wants to leave me cuz shes confused,whenever I make it up to her she doesnt wanna gimme a chance..Shes affraid Ill blast it in again..I told her ill be responsible, missery is all I see thats my minds state..I dont mind marryin her,livin wit it & work part time cuz im in college..but our family's poor..This is Malaysia & our dammn parents aint open minded to..im so confused & now im startin to feel the pressure..got my baby on my back..Loads to think of..I just wish she could keep it & so I can see wuts comin ill be prepared & all .. hope things turn up well..I love her alot,wanna live a life wit her..It's all meant to be like a wise man said,hope she doesnt leave me It aint fair!!

Umm, might be me being dense but how can she possibly know at 1week that she's pregnant? Unless you had sex like, the day before she was meant to start her period I havent a clue how this would work?

[GracieS]

Yeah, asking jesus to help will solve all your problems

He always helps me get through all my problems. Now that I let Him into my heart. Life is sweet in spite of all the upsets that happen in my life.

[Wow!]

OK, so have any of ya after the abortion....did ya find everything wrong with your mum? Do ya still do it? I do. I also drink a lot and shop a lot. I'm also short tempered with my kids at times. My DH is always on me case about all of it. Is it all related to the abortion? especially still dumping on me mum? I thought I was healed [it's been 7 yrs]. What do ya think? What do ya do to change it all? Thanks.

I find everything wrong with my mom no matter what she says and does even when she is good to me all the time. I do a lot of what you do. Just realized from what you wrote it may be cause of the abortion I had years. Guess I'm dumping all my crap on her cause there is no where else to put it. Has anyone helped to show you how to change?

[anniesays]

For all you here - it takes time to repair the damage we've done by our words. Just start small and let mum know ya love her in things you say to her and do for her. A quick email or cal saying 'I love ya mom even though I don't always show ya.' Or 'you look nice today, how are you? ' Stuff like that - you will feel better too. You have to change what you think inside first before it will match the outside. Try it.