Back together, but no sex.

[Tortured]

Hi everyone, I would appreciate some advice, male or female.

My girlfriend and I (I'm 21, she's 19) split up 3 months ago (after 3 years). It was one of those situations where we took each other for granted and things got bad so we needed space.

A month and a half later and she starts calling and calling wanting to get back together.

I decided to try again and we've been together for a month. She says she loves me and I love her. Things are better than ever and (as far as i can tell) we both feel really positive.

The only problem I have is that we haven't had sex or even anything close. She never had a particularly high sex drive before, and I always regretted not trying to spice things up and make the experience better for her.

I was determined to do this, but now haven't had the chance. She always enjoyed sex (yes, she did orgasm), but the problem was with actually initiating it. Admittedly, we very rarely get the opportunity (we both still live at home), but we could do other things and there have been times when we could of had sex.

I've tried talking to her about it. She says she feels pressured, and that it will happen in time.

But that's little comfort to me. I have a high sex drive and a high interest in sex and trying new things. I want to be patient, but this is very frustrating for me. It's not normally a major issue for me, but now all I can think about is why she's like this and what the problem is. I know that it's rarely the actually sex that's the problem, and indicates other problems in the relationship. But she claims everything's fine.

I want to believe her, but this is driving me crazy. Is there any way I could get her to open up and talk to about it?

[newcastlesteve23]

She may just be feeling wary since recently you'd broken up with her. Women are very emotional sorts who sometimes want to make sure the guy isnt just going to mess them about again.

If it were me, make her feel wanted for being her, not for whats between her legs. She'll realise your genuine soon enough