Anal Sex

[SexyJules]

I've never posted on here before .. so hope Im in the right place for this question. I love Anal sex, but am very self conscious about my actual anus. Its not the perfect round hole I always seem to see in porn films .. I have lots of extra folds of skin around mine, and although my last boyfriend never seemed to bother, I worried about somebody new I've met and his reaction to it. Should I tell him beforehand? I really just want to know whether Im normal or not ?
Thanks

[MarriedMom]

Jules, I wouldn't say a damn thing, and I wouldn't worry. Unless you have a bulging "ass tulip" he won't notice. LOL In that case, you shouldn't be getting banged down there anyway.

Any man that is lucky enough to stick his thing in a woman's ass isn't going to complain about the scenery down there. And if he does, he shouldn't be allowed to do it!

It sounds to me like you might have some minor tears around your Anal opening. It's perfectly normal, a lot of women and men have them. I myself had this problem since I was a baby. Things such as constipation, (which I had as a baby) or yes, even getting bumped in the mudd dumper, can cause these tears. It's perfectly normal. Sorry to say this, but they are actually little hemmoroids. Most of those porn stars you see with perfect assholes are either just lucky as hell, or they have had theirs cosmetically altered. There's a lot of S*** porn stars go through to become what men "think" are the perfect women.

If you were to tell a guy beforehand about your butthole, don't you think that would make you seem insecure as hell? I'm no guy, but one thing I've learned is that men are turned off by insecurities. I try to hide my insecurities as best as I can from my husband LOL. Yeah, I have them, as a lot of women do, we all know that. But sometimes being silent about them, especially if they're not that big of a deal, is the best thing to do. By saying something, you may be pointing out something that he would have never noticed in the first place.

My husband of course knows about my asshole not being perfect, but guess what? He doesn't care. He says, "there's just more to play with down there". Ahhh, men.

Just my opinion

[Guest]

Thank you so much for your reply .. I did wonder whether somebody may reply and say something daft, but Im glad you didn't! And you're right, its hardly a major issue I guess, just me being insecure, we've had sex (hooray !!!) I decided not to say anything and just see what happened and if he noticed .. then as things progressed I sort of passed comment on it .. and funnily enough he also said something along of the lines of there being more to play with and it didn't bother him at all. I suppose there was no point in worrying .. we all have bits of us we don't like but there's no much we can do about them, so our other halves either have to like it or lump it !

Anyway thanks again .. its reassuring to know we're not all perfect