Hi all even though i am new here (first post) i have been reading around alot and i was so glad to see this post. Hubby and i have been married for a little over 6 years now and sex is good not great like it used to be but good. The thing is for about the last 2 years he has been talking about seeing me with another guy and even joing in doing a double penetration on me. At first i was against it but it seems the older i get (now 33) the more i am interested and find myself thinking about it all the time. My husband is a very sexual person but it seems as if his drive is just declining and i was really hoping this might help turn the heat up a little. Any advice on those of you who have already done this sort of thing?
hello dawny 75, yes my husband and I have had threesomes, (MFMs,FMFs) for quite some years now, unlike you our sex life wasn't declining, we just wanted more, the thing I missed the most was being chatted-up and then when we were going to have sex, being undressed and undressing someone new,
you need to talk to your husband, and if you still want to go ahead, sellect the man/woman and start the flirting game, we have not gone to a adult site and never would,
we used dancing to get near a person, remember its easy for a woman to get a man to bed her, but with your husband there, well good for your ego
love Sally
Sally that is just wonderful to know that you can do things like that and it not ruin your relationship I just wish i could be more like you i am so jealous and selfish that i could not imagine seeing myhuband inside someone else I feel so horrible about it because he would love it to have another man come in but i would not be able to return the favor with letting another woman join. Does that make me just a total selfish person???
Hi all even though i am new here (first post) i have been reading around alot and i was so glad to see this post. Hubby and i have been married for a little over 6 years now and sex is good not great like it used to be but good. The thing is for about the last 2 years he has been talking about seeing me with another guy and even joing in doing a double penetration on me. At first i was against it but it seems the older i get (now 33) the more i am interested and find myself thinking about it all the time. My husband is a very sexual person but it seems as if his drive is just declining and i was really hoping this might help turn the heat up a little. Any advice on those of you who have already done this sort of thing?
hello dawny 75, yes my husband and I have had threesomes, (MFMs,FMFs) for quite some years now, unlike you our sex life wasn't declining, we just wanted more, the thing I missed the most was being chatted-up and then when we were going to have sex, being undressed and undressing someone new,
you need to talk to your husband, and if you still want to go ahead, sellect the man/woman and start the flirting game, we have not gone to a adult site and never would,
we used dancing to get near a person, remember its easy for a woman to get a man to bed her, but with your husband there, well good for your ego
love Sally
Dawny, so far I haven't done anything of the kind as I'm still unsure about how hubby would take it. Theoretically he's in favour of women taking up their sexual liberty, but reality might be different. I think I should talk to him about that guy in the office who fancies me, would he honestly not mind if I had a fling with him?
Beth
i don't know about your hubby but mine would be very upset if i had a fling without him being involved
I would highly suggest NOT doing it with someone that you work with.
In fact, it should not be anyone that you are in contact with outside of your husband.
This removes any chance of jealous feelings happening, and it keeps the other guy from thinking "I wonder if she'd do me alone sometime?"
This happens ALL the time, so I really suggest having your husband find the guy.
Yes, you get to veto or approve of the guy, but it should be someone that your husband has to call to get together again.
Right now there is a guy that he works with that i would be willing to let come in I have known him for about 20 years and hubby has known him for about 12. I have never talked to him just know him because we used to ride the same bus when we went to school together. This guy has already made comments like he would love to come and watch us. Then there is this other guy who has been hubby's best friend since they were little he is the one hubby wants to bring in but i am just not so sure about him for one thing he is way to big for me i am serious the guy is hung like a horse it kind of scares me.
Dawny: I think a part of you is scared you would like it too much!
oh i know that is true hehe But he is also afraid i am going to like it and want to do it all the time
but surely, that is the reason to enter into extra sexual things, you dont go for it and not like it, that would be stipid, love sally PR i'm sorry I didn't mean to call you surely,
I just don't want to end up liking it better than just sex with hubby
I will say it again, with threesomes etc, it is sex and only sex, every man will do it differently, I get complete sexual satisfaction from my husband whom I love, after our first MFM, I asked John what he must think of me having such an orgasm,
he answered, "isn't that why we entered into this", and I must admit I have had sex with the other man on my own and though nice its not as good as with John, John knows about this, never keep anything from your husband/partner, keep the LOVE and sex apart,
you may wonder the reat of your life about what it would have been like, NOT ME, I know what its like, love Sally
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Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 4:40 am Post subject:
I think it's pretty unlikely you'll like it better than sex with your husband, unless something is really wrong with your relationship, or your husband can't fulfill you now.
Because, when you love someone, it's just an entirely different thing.
This is also why I recommend NOT doing it outside of your husband being there, and in on it, meaning, not just WATCHING you with the other guy, but actively participating at all times.
That way, no matter what is happening, it's an extension of your lovemaking with your husband, not an alternative experience apart from it.
Does this make sense?
This way, it ADDS to your experience with the one you love, not competes with it.
Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 5:57 am Post subject: nicely put
mande wrote:
I think it's pretty unlikely you'll like it better than sex with your husband, unless something is really wrong with your relationship, or your husband can't fulfill you now.
Because, when you love someone, it's just an entirely different thing.
This is also why I recommend NOT doing it outside of your husband being there, and in on it, meaning, not just WATCHING you with the other guy, but actively participating at all times.
That way, no matter what is happening, it's an extension of your lovemaking with your husband, not an alternative experience apart from it.
Does this make sense?
This way, it ADDS to your experience with the one you love, not competes with it.
you put that really nice, that is why my husband and I do threesomes, as you will see by my other threads, dont confuse LOVE and sex, just enjoy what you like not what others tell you, love Sally
Sally that is just wonderful to know that you can do things like that and it not ruin your relationship I just wish i could be more like you i am so jealous and selfish that i could not imagine seeing myhuband inside someone else I feel so horrible about it because he would love it to have another man come in but i would not be able to return the favor with letting another woman join. Does that make me just a total selfish person???
I don't think there's anything selfish about your attitude, which I imagine is at least partly inspired by your wish to protect your marriage. My wife for one thought along the same lines when she devised this agreement saying that as long as she remains emotionally faithful to me, she's entitled to casual extramarital sex whereas I'm to remain sexually faithful; or at least not to look actively for women to bed with (which boils down to the same ).
One reason for this semi-open relationship is that in the past I endangered our marriage by falling in love with the woman I had an affair with. My wife always knew to keep love and sex apart, so it wouldn't be fair if she would have to suffer for my mistakes.
Sally that is just wonderful to know that you can do things like that and it not ruin your relationship I just wish i could be more like you i am so jealous and selfish that i could not imagine seeing myhuband inside someone else I feel so horrible about it because he would love it to have another man come in but i would not be able to return the favor with letting another woman join. Does that make me just a total selfish person???
let me explain something, though John never got jealous in MFMs, I had pangs of jealousy in FMFs, like you it was when I saw John enter the other woman ( who was/is my friend,) it was the first time that I saw his penis glisten with her love juices, funny but I never expected it, but now I love the FMFs, the other woman and I go down on each other,
dawny 75 go with your instincts, and forget about the size of the other man, we woman can take more than we think we can, let me know what you think, love Sally
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I just wish i could be more like you i am so jealous and selfish that i could not imagine seeing myhuband inside someone else 
I feel so horrible about it because he would love it to have another man come in but i would not be able to return the favor with letting another woman join. Does that make me just a total selfish person???
hehe But he is also afraid i am going to like it and want to do it all the time 
