Bringing my woman to orgasm

[Richie]

Ok, here is the problem. I have been going out with my girlfriend for two months now. We have a very active sex life (as you do) but there is one problem.

I am her second sexual partner (she is 19, i am 22), with her first partner she never managed to reach orgasm although has been able to obtain it via mastabation alone. Now I am with her, I too am having no luck in bringing her the magic "O"!

I have had a number of sexual partners and have been able to bring them to orgasm (no, not faked) but I can not bring this girl too. She's says the sex is great but she has not reached orgasm although she blames herself and compliments me on how hard I really work at it! I mean i have actually pumped this girl for four hours none stop after one hour of intense foreplay!

Now, does anyone know how I can get the blood out of a stone here? I want to please my lady but nothing seems to work. G-Spot, teasing of the clit, full on clit stimulation, all over body massages and kisses, i have tried it all! Help me!

[HtY]

You know probably the best thing you could do is stop trying and stop making it an issue. She can get her orgasms through masturbation so she's not totally missing out. Just enjoy her and your relationship and have fun and guess what - the orgasms will come in time.

[someguy]

They say that women need to be comfortable and relaxed to actually orgasm, I'm sure you've heard this yourself before. Put the heating up a little bit, try having a slow relaxing evening, wine her and dine her, put some quiet mellow music on and cuddle eachother for a couple of hours, just try to enjoy eachother's company, have a few jokes, talk about things you'd like to do in the future (if you can spare the time!). Make a real evening out of it. Make lots of eye contact, tell her how much you care about her and give her a kiss. Take things nice and slowly, let her lead the way and see how that turns out

Women DO have to feel very comfortable, my gf of 13 months was sexually abused as a child of 8 and has never had a proper relationship until myself (started when she was 1, she never told her parents because they would have called her a liar and her fatehr would defiantely have taken it out on her, he used to bang her head against the toilet when she didn't feel like going. So understand there is often something people don't get told and feelings that don't get shared

[Guest]

Lick her

[Hotdog]

Try waking her up in the morning with some nice soft kisses, as she will be waking up from sleeping she will be nice and relaxed and being kissed awake is extrememly pleasent. and ease into it. don't rush, take your time and just enjoy that you woke her up so pleasantl . don't even think about trying to make her orgasm. . and it should happen

[Richie]

OK, thanks for all your help. I can advise, that I have succeded!!! I took her away for the weekend to the West End of London, wined her, dined her etc, nice hotel in Kensington. Anyway, i went down on her after having relaxed her right down and boom, massive orgasm, she loved it and wouldn't stop banging on about it.

First man to make her orgasm, quality! Anyway, problem is, we get back to normal environment, her house, do pretty much the same thing and nothing, not a thing.

I can't take her to hotels every time, very expensive hobby! What in the hell can I do? I have taken her out in my car and we have had sex, which she liked but didn't orgasm although in that kinda scenario, it's really hard to lick a girl out.

I dunno, Kensington again it is then.

[Guest from Oz]

Perhaps you need to find out why she doesnt feel relaxed at home... does she feel its like being at home with her parents/family? Guilt association maybe?? Best advice is to give it time.. so much with a woman can depend on trust so just go on as you are.. you obviously have the sensitivity to succeed. Good Luck!

[ambrosia]

Keep up the oral! I've never had an orgasm with intercourse alone. Also, relaxation seems to be a big factor. Wine helps! Sweet talk her before and during sex. Tell her she's beautiful, smells wonderful, etc. Also, she may be feeling pressured to have an orgasm with you now that she's already has with you. She may feel like you expect it now, which you do. Be patient, it'll start happening more frequently, especially with lots of oral pleasure. Be prepared to give oral for at least 30 minutes. Also, if she climaxes during masturbation why don't you masturbatemasturbate

[pussy licker]

lick her out