What Age Do You Tell Kids father xmas isnt Real?

Sammg · Posted: Thu Dec 16, 2004 4:44 am Post subject:

Kids find out, through friends or whatever... i found out b/c one year i was asked to play easter bunny for my younger cousins ( i think i was 11 or 12) and i figured it out from there...but i still get presents from him *wink* and i'm 23!
If your child doesn't know before entering high school, tell them, nothing could be more devistanting than that conversation with new friends....social suicide! but until then, let them enjoy it, (i hate to say this) kids are going up really fast, u never get that time back.

Guest · Posted: Fri Dec 17, 2004 12:07 am Post subject:

I simply cannot believe that children aged 12 would be so naive as to still believe in Santa Claus!!!!! Surely not? That's just plain ridiculous. I worked out for myself by the age of 5 that the santa story couldn't possibly be true. OK, so some of my friends took a little longer than that but I didn't know ANYONE who still believed after the age of 7.

joffa from down under · Posted: Fri Dec 17, 2004 3:39 am Post subject:

im a kid · Guest

he's not really i knew it Crying or Very sad

i am a kid too · Guest

i knew it all along that he isn't real!HAAHA!!i finally got proof to my parents. now i am going on and on about how they have lied to for all those years. So all those fuckin parents out there who have told there kids that santa is real them tell them the truth right now! I felt like a piece of S*** when they told me because they lied for ssssssooooooooooo long.it wouldn't have benn bad if they told me earlier. It would have been better if the they told me when i was about 4-6. They told me when i was 11. I basically knew that he wasn't real for the past 2 years.

Guest · Posted: Sat Dec 25, 2004 3:59 am Post subject:

I always liked how excited my kids got about santa but everytime my son would ask me about him I would feel like such a liar, and would feel guilty. So we decided to tell him this year, he is only seven but it just didnt feel right anymore. I felt like the more I told him the more let down he would be when he found out the truth. He was pretty upset at first and asked us why we lied tp him. THat really broke my heart. I hated lying to him every year. Christmas is still magical and I told him the true story about how Jesus got presents On the day he was born.

Guest · Posted: Tue Dec 28, 2004 12:39 am Post subject:

I don't think my childhood was made sad or otherwise by knowing that the Father Christmas story was just that - a story. Children love stories - and I was no exception. I think so many people fail to realise what vivid imaginations children have; it really isn't necessary to tell them elaborate lies to make things seem 'magical.' Just tell them stories and leave the rest to them. I loved all sorts of fairy stories as a child; tales of monsters, wicked and good fairies, hobgoblins, talking animals etc etc etc. My parents never attempted to convince me any of these things really existed - and I think most children are intelligent enough to realise they don't.
I really think it's unfair to tell elaborate lies to continue to persuade a child to believe that Father Christmas really exists, once that child has reached the age when they begin to think through things logically and question the plausibility of stories they've been told. At that point they should be told the truth and their questions should be answered honestly. Why are parents so loathe to let go of Father Christmas? I can only think it is for their own pleasure, rather than the child's, that they are prepared to go to such lengths to conceal the truth.
Father Christmas seems to be a unique case. If a child were frightened of monsters they'd seen in a book or film, or if they were upset that they couldn't fly like Peter Pan, any parent would quickly tell them "it's only pretend."

Santa · Guest

Waiting untill 12 is way too long. By then most kids know and when the kids at his/her school find out they think santa is still real they will be the laughing stock of the school. I think that 8 or 9 is the right time.

xXx.Lesley.xXx · Posted: Thu Mar 10, 2005 12:33 pm Post subject:

Well my kids will be told when I fell the time is right. Wether thats when they are 9 or 12 or 6 even. Every child is different. Some take it well others don't.

And as for the guest who wrote

Santa · Guest

Shannon · Guest

I have to agree with "joffa from down under"

Kids have such a short time as kids before they grow up and realize that the world bites and there is no such thing as magic.

Keep the magic alive as long as possible! Let kids be kids!

Shannon

karen1967 · Guest

my daughter aged 10 still believes in santa .. if only to humour me
i,m not sure!!!!! who is right... is he real or wot??? Very Happy

Guest · Posted: Tue May 03, 2005 1:10 pm Post subject:

I was never led to believe Santa was real. Christmas was still jolly exciting though.

P_1984d · Posted: Thu May 05, 2005 7:33 pm Post subject:

The whole santa thing made christmas even more exciting and special. I was told by a friend, when I was about 10. I didnt believe her and asked my Mum, she continued to lie and say he was real. I used to think 'how could my mum and dad afford all those presents, so I still believed santa was real. But my Mum did later admit he wasnt real. I was heartbroken. I said 'So who drank the milk I left out and the mince pie? My mum said 'Ur Da the greedy shite'.

P_1984d · Posted: Thu May 05, 2005 7:36 pm Post subject:

I agree with shannon and lesley. Let the kids live the magic as long as possible. Thats what being a kid is all about.

When u get older, thats when you appreciate your family more instead of the gifts. I love just going up and having dinner and laughing and pulling crackers