Hitting children

Miss V · Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 4:56 am Post subject:

All children are different. Some need a good smack to keep them in line and some need as little as a time out. There are many methods of discipline and smacking should be allowed to be one of them if necessary.
However it seems strange to me to spank a child still in diapers. I feel that if they can't rationalize when its time to use the bathroom then they cant rationalize the consequenses of their actions. Thus spanking should be the last resort or not used at all in that case.

noodles · Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 10:33 am Post subject:

Guest · Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 1:00 pm Post subject:

i could never hit my child. I remember how aweful it was from my parents. No child should have to deal with a parents anger like that.

Mad

Guest · Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 7:45 pm Post subject:

Guest · Posted: Fri Jan 12, 2007 12:16 pm Post subject:

noodles · Posted: Fri Jan 12, 2007 12:29 pm Post subject:

i give mine emotional punishments - lots of put downs and things to make them realise they are in the wrong and how bad they are to behave in certain ways - for example if my daughter runs in the road, i tell her what a 'stupid irresponsible diabolical child she is'. if my son hits his sister i tell him very calmly that he is a 'bullying idiot and that only arseholes behave this way' its all measured tho imo so thats ok i wreckon. whatever.

Guest · Posted: Fri Jan 12, 2007 6:31 pm Post subject:

Guest · Posted: Fri Jan 12, 2007 6:49 pm Post subject:

As far as i am concern regardless if it is a measured smack or not it is still as mack and more importantly it is assault and you can be charge for it under the law. A adult wouldn't hit another adult so why should a child be any different.[/quote]

It's not illegal in England.

As I've said before, adult punishment doesn't work on children. If I do wrong, the court hearing could be months after the crime and I could be imprisoned. Try doing that to a 3 year old. They won't know why they're being punished and locking them in their room for weeks is cruelty.
The punishment must fit the deed and the individual. Children are not adults and cannot be treated as such.

Guest · Posted: Fri Jan 12, 2007 7:52 pm Post subject:

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As far as i am concern regardless if it is a measured smack or not it is still as mack and more importantly it is assault and you can be charge for it under the law. A adult wouldn't hit another adult so why should a child be any different.[/quote]

If I see an adult walking along a busy road or using a sharp knife or a power saw, I wouldn't take any action. So why should a child be any different?

Jon Phoenix Brookstone · Guest

To those who think that "smacking" their kids and "beating" their kids are different things, consider using a dictionary:

Smack ~ to strike
Beat ~ To strike

Interesting how Oxford classified both as the same thing. So stop trying to argue that they're different because they aren't. And in the eyes of the child you're hitting, that difference won't matter. What will matter is that the person they used to think they could rely on is causing them pain.

And FYI ~ most kids do not develop the cognitive capacity to discern right and wrong, and the fact that other people have feelings until age six or seven (look up Jean Piaget). Why parents don't ever learn cognitive psychology before they have kids is beyond me.

And FYI ~ 18 years down the road ~ hit a kid enough, they won't forget it. And if they're smart enough, they just might end up leaving you permanently for your history of pad parenting. And you'll be left one sorry pile of remorse without your own kids loving you.

Don't believe me, ask my parents. Very Happy

Guest · Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 2:56 am Post subject:

Jbabe · Guest

I totally disagree with hitting a child .. there is no sense and no point behind it .. all you are doing is making yourself look bad .. i think that it is perthetic and i think that anyone who does deserves to be locked up .. There are lots of other ways of disciplining your children
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