Hitting children

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[Miss V]

[noodles]

Cool and how about your husband giving you a crack whenever he thinks your out of line. I see more badly behaved adults than i do children, maybe the laws are all wrong and smackin each other should just become a norm for challenging behaviour.

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[Miss V]

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I have a six month old baby so obviously this doesn't apply to me yet but my husband and I have talked about it before. Personally I will try to discipline without smacking as I find it quite hypocritical ("Ella, don't smack your brother!" *smack*) and also think other disciplining methods are more effective e.g 3 warnings then time out or the "naughty step"- 1 minute for every year of the childs life. However, I consider my parents were great parents and they used to smack my sister and I on occasion. Basically I don't plan to smack my daughter but I don't consider it wrong and think you should do what works best for you. I also wouldn't rule it out together, it may be the only method that works for Ella and in that case I will certainly smack her if she misbehaves badly.

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[opalfruit]

i dont see smacking as a beating. i see it as a really negative and lazy way to teach.

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[opalfruit]

yeh - punished with a smack. makes no sense to me at all.

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[animallover15]

I left boarding school in the UK in 1980. We had corporal punishment in our school and we were terrified of the teachers and they could be quite viscious in dealing out their punishments. (fists, canes, coathangers and once I saw someone get kicked) Whenever I complained to my parents they said I maust have done something to deserve it!

My own son attended school in Australia. There is no corporal punishment. The students have the run of the school. There have been many assaults on teachers(and parents defending their kids for assaulting the teachers )

I have smacked my child. At times it was the only thing that would get his attention and I have no regrets about it.
I do not know what the next generation of children are going to be like but by the looks of things we are heading back to being in-undated with neanderthals!

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Smacking should be against the law. There is no excuse for smacking other methods of discipline can be used. All you are doing is telling the child it is all right to smack so then the child does the same.

I know of one mother who started to smack her child. How ever she had to stop because her son was hitting her back. She said to me i am sending him the wrong message because by me smacking him he thinks its okay to do it back. So she found other ways to discipline him and this a 2 year old were are talking about.

I also saw a incident at a shopping center where a child ran out on the road and the mother smack her for it. I went and told her off. Because it was her fault that the child had ran out on the road not the child. The mother wasn't holding the child's hand so what does she expect the child is going to do. She of course told me to mind my own business and i told her that the welfare of children's is everyone's business and i told her i would call the police and make it there business she didn't say any thing after that.

Just because your parents smacked you doesn't mean what your parents did was right. Also it was different times for your parents where smacking was more acceptable. We are now in 2007 where smacking isn't as acceptable.

Infact your parents of there generation who are now elderly do frown upon people who smack there children and i have seen this many of times. So perhaps they admit they were wrong or perhaps they are going along with the times.

If smacking is the only form of discipline you know then you need parent training.

[noodles]