Too shy to enjoy

[xdamnationx]

Hi,

I have a problem with relaxing and being able to enjoy things and my boyfriend always asks me why i'm not loud when being pleased.........and I JUST CAN'T BE LOUD or VOCAL AT ALL!!!???? I'm not like that and I don't think I can be.
I don't know why, but I just can't seem to even tell him about things I might like or want to try with him, I just don't talk about it like i'm uncomfortable with the whole subject or something. I don't know why!!!
I can't let go.

Can you please advise me on this??
Thankya,
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[G]

Not everyone is built the same... you're a quiet one, and he should learn to accept that.

On the other hand, guys do like feedback...

You could tell him he's free to ask you how you are feeling at anytime. If you're getting into it, tell him how really good it feels. Just a couple of words if you can't muster any more.

Eventually, hopefully, he'll grow to like your whispered answers just as much as the louder feedback he initially hoped for.

Part of long-term relationships is two people both adapting a little bit to make things more enjoyable for both. It's not right for him to demand you be a screamer, it's not right for you to demand he'll never get any ear candy. Work out something that will satisfy both of you, without one of you having to be someone you aren't.

Good luck.

[me]

I really have the same problem. Making noise somehow ruins it for me. My wife would like me to be more vocal but I just can't. I can make breathing noises but vocals don't work.

[sexy_chick]

hey if you can't speck to him face to face about how your feeling then try writing letters about how you feel and if that not work then try to talk to a famliy member or a best mate and see if they could help you talk to him face to face love sexy_chick

[DevilSyndrom]

you just have to think that there is no reason to being shy with your man... I mean, he knows you inside out (literally) so just speak to him... you'll probably find that the more you are able to talk to him the more open you'll become...