Posted: Wed Nov 22, 2006 10:16 pm Post subject: IM SO UGLY
HI I AM LIKE most of you on here i wont go out etc because of the way i look i have been saving for plastic surgery since leaving school i have had all th bullying and the name calling and the beatings for being me i have been called ugly many times and freak show and different i have already tried to commit suicde because of the way i look etc and had a nervous breakdown even kids shout state on that when i go out i try to hide my face as not to scare people or there shocked reactions when they see me i see my dr and councillor when ican be brave enough to go out id rather saty behind clsed doors as to not draw attrentiopn to my face people easily take advantage of me and use me many people owe me money but have not bothered to pay it back i have even been as far as london hareley st in the hope for reconsrtuctive surgery but i am too overweight due to my asthma and the steroids i have to take i will make any excuse not to go out as i feel safer here where noone can insult me or bully me kathy aged 34
Posted: Wed Nov 22, 2006 10:23 pm Post subject: Re: Reality
. wrote:
Any_Names_Left?? wrote:
I think it is not helpful telling people they may have BDD. I considered that myself but it isn't BDD if you really are ugly. BDD label is often given to good looking or average people who are obsessed with the way they look and are ogften attention seekers. You are either ugly or you are not. For those of you who are not ugly and who say 'just get on with it, beauty is skin deep, people shouldn't judge you by your appearances etc..' then I say see how it would be to spend a day being someone like me.
I am an intelligent 32 year old and I know what I see in the mirror. I have known I was ugly since I was a teenager. I have also suffered from depression on and off since then as well. Being ugly can have a huge impact on your life and can casue the most severe depression. I'm not saying my depression is caused by it, more that the way I feel about myself is made worse by the depression. My doc/counsellor says that people have negative thoguhts caused my distorted thinking. Much the same way an anorexic looks in the mirror and sees someone fat, I think that is crap. I look in the mirror and i can see what i can see. I am well educated and have a good brain, and I know reality when I see it. The fact is I am ugly - not attention seeking like some of the more egotistical of you on here ("I'm pretty so why do people call me ugly?" Get over yourselves and you'd realise that if you had a life to focus on you wouldnt be so self centred and ever thought people might just be seeing your arrogance and ugly personlity - if you're walking round all day thinking how gorgeous you are people will dislike you. It isn't jealousy - it is becasue you are probably not a nice person.)
Most of you on here moan about having a big nose, or being hairy or focus on one or two things. Well think yourself lucky you're not ugly all over. I hate my face and i hate my body - it is revolting and even makes me feel sick. I'm not going to list all that is wrong with me. I dont need to because they just are. I cant find clothes cos i need something that covers me (and no this isn't a weight issue before anyone says that). I need all my skin covered - have you any idea how depressing it is to have to cover yourself up totally or not be able to tgo out of the house? Especially in the summer when you cant take your clothes off and the shops are full of clothes that don't cover you?
When you are ugly all over and need to try and hide it so people arent repulsed it takes over EVERYTHING. I can't live a normal life or do noraml thigns that everyine else can. I miss out on a lot and i wantt o keep away from other people. Yet I am so unhappy and lonely. I have never found the key to acceptign how ugly I am, and how to accept the fact that I wil never find someone to love me totally and who wants to be with me 100%. It just isn't going to happen. I work so hard on my good qualities - I am a good mother, a loyal friend, I have a very good education I worked hard for, and I have a great sense of humour and often an endearing personlity. But it doesn't matter. Truth is we all judge people on first appearances whether consciously not. Who cares if I have the qualities listed above - no one is going to find out. And before anyone says if they cant see past that they're not worth it... please don't bother. I want to know how I accept my ugliness and knowing I will be alone forever?? That's my problem, not BDD. I am only obsessed because i am so repulsive and it's taking over my life and my thoughts. I do not have self esteem issues or else why woud I see my good points?? It's because I am genuinely ugly - I have never seen anyone more ugly than me. There just ins't anyone.
this is just like me.
I look ugly with make up on and make up off.
I am thinking of plastic surgery yeah i wish i cant afford it.
I am a vampire i am afreak i am so useless being alive my parents want grankids.
Oh well i will be alone for ever.
I think i get my looks of my uncle.
Never mind.
i DON'T REALLY KNOW WHY I AM POSTING HERE EITHER.
only to share my stoy nver had a real friend never had a boyfriend.
i tryed being funny but it got really tring in being like that.
when i was at school everyone laughed at me for being ugly,
Now i have social phobia i dopnt go out much now.
My life has been ruined im ready for death.
I know people wont miss me but i dont care about people no more.
I am such a lose i cant do nothing right i wish i could find the right job.
everything you wrote there i agree with Any_Names_Left.
Posted: Thu Nov 23, 2006 11:17 am Post subject: BEING UGLY
HI I FEEL JUST LIKE YOU ON HERE IM ALWAYS GETTING BULLIED BECUASE OF THE WAY I LOOK GETTING TOLD IM DIFFERENT AND CALLED UGLY AND EVEN FREAK SHOW I HAVE NO CONFIDENCE PEOPLE ALWAYS TRY TO MOCK ME OR BELITTLE ME I SLASHED MY WRISTS AND HAD A NERVOUS BREAKDOWN OF MAY O5 I CANT SEEM TO STAND UP FOR MYSELF I WONT GO OUT OF THE HOUSE UNLESS REALLY NECESSARY EXCEPT TO GO TO THE DRS I FEEL I LOOK WORSE THAT THE ELEPHANT MAN BUT AT LEAST HE HAD SOMETHING GOING FOR HIM INTELLIGENCE IM JUST THICK MY DEPRESSION OF MY FACIAL APPEARANCE IS SO LOW IM ON ALL SORTS OF ANTI DEPRESSANTS AND SLEEPING TABLETS AS I DO NOT SLEEP I AM LIKE THID 24/7 I GET SO FRUSTRATED THAT PEOPLE HAVE HURT ME IN THE PAST AND I LET THEM I WISH I HAD CONFIDENCE TO GIVE IT THEM BACK I WSH I ENDED MY LIFE IT SEEMS TO ME MY ONLY CHANCE FOR SURVIVAL IS PLASTIC SURGEY I WOULD DO ANYTHING FRO THAT AND I MEAN ANY THING KATHY
Posted: Thu Nov 23, 2006 11:21 am Post subject: Re: Reality
DISFIGURED wrote:
. wrote:
Any_Names_Left?? wrote:
I think it is not helpful telling people they may have BDD. I considered that myself but it isn't BDD if you really are ugly. BDD label is often given to good looking or average people who are obsessed with the way they look and are ogften attention seekers. You are either ugly or you are not. For those of you who are not ugly and who say 'just get on with it, beauty is skin deep, people shouldn't judge you by your appearances etc..' then I say see how it would be to spend a day being someone like me.
I am an intelligent 32 year old and I know what I see in the mirror. I have known I was ugly since I was a teenager. I have also suffered from depression on and off since then as well. Being ugly can have a huge impact on your life and can casue the most severe depression. I'm not saying my depression is caused by it, more that the way I feel about myself is made worse by the depression. My doc/counsellor says that people have negative thoguhts caused my distorted thinking. Much the same way an anorexic looks in the mirror and sees someone fat, I think that is crap. I look in the mirror and i can see what i can see. I am well educated and have a good brain, and I know reality when I see it. The fact is I am ugly - not attention seeking like some of the more egotistical of you on here ("I'm pretty so why do people call me ugly?" Get over yourselves and you'd realise that if you had a life to focus on you wouldnt be so self centred and ever thought people might just be seeing your arrogance and ugly personlity - if you're walking round all day thinking how gorgeous you are people will dislike you. It isn't jealousy - it is becasue you are probably not a nice person.)
Most of you on here moan about having a big nose, or being hairy or focus on one or two things. Well think yourself lucky you're not ugly all over. I hate my face and i hate my body - it is revolting and even makes me feel sick. I'm not going to list all that is wrong with me. I dont need to because they just are. I cant find clothes cos i need something that covers me (and no this isn't a weight issue before anyone says that). I need all my skin covered - have you any idea how depressing it is to have to cover yourself up totally or not be able to tgo out of the house? Especially in the summer when you cant take your clothes off and the shops are full of clothes that don't cover you?
When you are ugly all over and need to try and hide it so people arent repulsed it takes over EVERYTHING. I can't live a normal life or do noraml thigns that everyine else can. I miss out on a lot and i wantt o keep away from other people. Yet I am so unhappy and lonely. I have never found the key to acceptign how ugly I am, and how to accept the fact that I wil never find someone to love me totally and who wants to be with me 100%. It just isn't going to happen. I work so hard on my good qualities - I am a good mother, a loyal friend, I have a very good education I worked hard for, and I have a great sense of humour and often an endearing personlity. But it doesn't matter. Truth is we all judge people on first appearances whether consciously not. Who cares if I have the qualities listed above - no one is going to find out. And before anyone says if they cant see past that they're not worth it... please don't bother. I want to know how I accept my ugliness and knowing I will be alone forever?? That's my problem, not BDD. I am only obsessed because i am so repulsive and it's taking over my life and my thoughts. I do not have self esteem issues or else why woud I see my good points?? It's because I am genuinely ugly - I have never seen anyone more ugly than me. There just ins't anyone.
this is just like me.
I look ugly with make up on and make up off.
I am thinking of plastic surgery yeah i wish i cant afford it.
I am a vampire i am afreak i am so useless being alive my parents want grankids.
Oh well i will be alone for ever.
I think i get my looks of my uncle.
Never mind.
i DON'T REALLY KNOW WHY I AM POSTING HERE EITHER.
only to share my stoy nver had a real friend never had a boyfriend.
i tryed being funny but it got really tring in being like that.
when i was at school everyone laughed at me for being ugly,
Now i have social phobia i dopnt go out much now.
My life has been ruined im ready for death.
I know people wont miss me but i dont care about people no more.
I am such a lose i cant do nothing right i wish i could find the right job.
everything you wrote there i agree with Any_Names_Left.
Posted: Thu Nov 23, 2006 3:05 pm Post subject: you sound just like me
. wrote:
. wrote:
Sorry about that. I am very confused about my appearance i am 37 and throughout my life i have had people call me beautiful, homely ugly, pretty, disgusting, a dog, and back and forth i don't know what i am, but in the last 7 years i have been going through hell. People have said so many hurtful things to me that it caused major depression and anxiety so i went to a plastic surgeon he said there was nothing wrong with my looks and i must be hearing things and i should see my family Dr. I went to see my Dr. and she said the same thing which made me feel good for awhile until comments came again, i then went to a therapist who said i was very attractive and it didn't make sense. I have seen two more therapists who say i am pretty and diagnosed me with body dismorphic disorder, but i do not agree i dont think i'm ugly others do.
Well that was over a span of 2yrs so i went back to plastic surgeon who gave me a lecture about being attractive and said he would not work on me and that my thinking is twisted that i'm not seeing myself right, but that really is'nt the problem, the problem is the way people react to me. I couldn't express enough to these Dr.s that i really am going through this i am about ready to start walking around with a tape recorder just to prove it to them. It is so frustrating for people to think your ok and it must not be happening, I even had a Dr. tell me "they really think your pretty trust me i know i'm the expert. I don't know if any of you have had the same experiences or similiar but i am so depressed because nothing changes.
Posted: Thu Nov 23, 2006 10:06 pm Post subject: the way we look
. wrote:
. wrote:
So please don't patronise by suggesting we have nothing to worry about. The fact is, some of us do. Just be grateful that you're not in the same boat.
I often wonder how the beautiful people in the world would cope if they had their looks taken away and had to be ugly for a day, see what it feels like in our shoes. I bet they wouldnt be spouting all this rubbish about 'nothing to worry about... blah blah'!
hi i am glad i found this web page so i can relate to people who feeel the same as me i even think tat im that uglu ithink i am facially disfigured i hate what i see in the mirror and i am saving for reconstructive surgery so badly i have been calle dall sorts from ugly face freak show different you name it and its all to do with my facial appearance i even have kids shouting state on that when i go out and people find it easy to take advantage of me lots of people owe me money over a thousand pounds but because i have no confidence they refuse to give it back how do i get it back the money and confidence also i know this isnt in my head i was called freak show just the other week for no reason what soever so id rather stay in can anyone get back to me on this especially the 32 year old woman forgot her name ... thanks kathy
Posted: Fri Nov 24, 2006 12:20 pm Post subject: Re: Reality
C.J wrote:
. wrote:
Any_Names_Left?? wrote:
I think it is not helpful telling people they may have BDD. I considered that myself but it isn't BDD if you really are ugly. BDD label is often given to good looking or average people who are obsessed with the way they look and are ogften attention seekers. You are either ugly or you are not. For those of you who are not ugly and who say 'just get on with it, beauty is skin deep, people shouldn't judge you by your appearances etc..' then I say see how it would be to spend a day being someone like me.
I am an intelligent 32 year old and I know what I see in the mirror. I have known I was ugly since I was a teenager. I have also suffered from depression on and off since then as well. Being ugly can have a huge impact on your life and can casue the most severe depression. I'm not saying my depression is caused by it, more that the way I feel about myself is made worse by the depression. My doc/counsellor says that people have negative thoguhts caused my distorted thinking. Much the same way an anorexic looks in the mirror and sees someone fat, I think that is crap. I look in the mirror and i can see what i can see. I am well educated and have a good brain, and I know reality when I see it. The fact is I am ugly - not attention seeking like some of the more egotistical of you on here ("I'm pretty so why do people call me ugly?" Get over yourselves and you'd realise that if you had a life to focus on you wouldnt be so self centred and ever thought people might just be seeing your arrogance and ugly personlity - if you're walking round all day thinking how gorgeous you are people will dislike you. It isn't jealousy - it is becasue you are probably not a nice person.)
Most of you on here moan about having a big nose, or being hairy or focus on one or two things. Well think yourself lucky you're not ugly all over. I hate my face and i hate my body - it is revolting and even makes me feel sick. I'm not going to list all that is wrong with me. I dont need to because they just are. I cant find clothes cos i need something that covers me (and no this isn't a weight issue before anyone says that). I need all my skin covered - have you any idea how depressing it is to have to cover yourself up totally or not be able to tgo out of the house? Especially in the summer when you cant take your clothes off and the shops are full of clothes that don't cover you?
When you are ugly all over and need to try and hide it so people arent repulsed it takes over EVERYTHING. I can't live a normal life or do noraml thigns that everyine else can. I miss out on a lot and i wantt o keep away from other people. Yet I am so unhappy and lonely. I have never found the key to acceptign how ugly I am, and how to accept the fact that I wil never find someone to love me totally and who wants to be with me 100%. It just isn't going to happen. I work so hard on my good qualities - I am a good mother, a loyal friend, I have a very good education I worked hard for, and I have a great sense of humour and often an endearing personlity. But it doesn't matter. Truth is we all judge people on first appearances whether consciously not. Who cares if I have the qualities listed above - no one is going to find out. And before anyone says if they cant see past that they're not worth it... please don't bother. I want to know how I accept my ugliness and knowing I will be alone forever?? That's my problem, not BDD. I am only obsessed because i am so repulsive and it's taking over my life and my thoughts. I do not have self esteem issues or else why woud I see my good points?? It's because I am genuinely ugly - I have never seen anyone more ugly than me. There just ins't anyone.
HI THIS IS ME TOO I HATE GOING OUT BECAUSE OF THE WAY I LOOK I MAKE EXCUSES NOT TO GO OUT CAN ANY OF YOU REPLY TO SOME OF MY REPLIES I AM SO DISTRESSED I AM AT A LOSS I HAVE ALREADY TRIED TO END MY LIFE I FEEEL SO ISOLATED FRO ME TO LIVE A NORMAL LIFE IS FOR PLASTIC SURGEY I SEE IN THE MIRROR DERFORMITY AND SHEER UGLINESS I HAVE HAD THE STIGMA ALL MY LIFE THE BEATINGS THE NAME CALLING EVEN VIOLENCE I HAVE BEEN SAVING FOR PLASTIC SURGERY FOR A LONG TIME SINCE LEAVING SCHOOL I AM NOW 34 I AM ALWAYS GETTING BULLIED AND PEOPLE TAKE ADVANTAGE AND USE ME I FEEL I CAN RELATE TO PEOPLE ON HERE VERY MUCH
this is just like me.
I look ugly with make up on and make up off.
I am thinking of plastic surgery yeah i wish i cant afford it.
I am a vampire i am afreak i am so useless being alive my parents want grankids.
Oh well i will be alone for ever.
I think i get my looks of my uncle.
Never mind.
i DON'T REALLY KNOW WHY I AM POSTING HERE EITHER.
only to share my stoy nver had a real friend never had a boyfriend.
i tryed being funny but it got really tring in being like that.
when i was at school everyone laughed at me for being ugly,
Now i have social phobia i dopnt go out much now.
My life has been ruined im ready for death.
I know people wont miss me but i dont care about people no more.
I am such a lose i cant do nothing right i wish i could find the right job.
everything you wrote there i agree with Any_Names_Left.
i can totaly realte to you two. what you have both writen here.
Posted: Sun Nov 26, 2006 10:47 am Post subject: Re: ugly or now
wayneg wrote:
Hi everyone i am the 37 yrear old male who who posted at the top of this page who who was unsure of the way i looked.Men call me ugly most women say im handsome.put me out of misery someone i need to get on with my life.here is a pic of me with my lady wife.[url][1]http://img312.imageshack.us/img312/341/picture0025bs.jpg[/1][/url]
i think men may be jealous i think your stunning looking
Posted: Tue Nov 28, 2006 12:28 pm Post subject: Re: ugly or now
[quote="wayneg"]Hi everyone i am the 37 yrear old male who who posted at the top of this page who who was unsure of the way i looked.Men call me ugly most women say im handsome.put me out of misery someone i need to get on with my life.here is a pic of me with my lady wife.[url][1]http://img312.imageshack.us/img312/341/picture0025bs.jpg[/1][/url][/good looking sir you have ap roblem if you think your ugly quote]
Posted: Tue Nov 28, 2006 12:34 pm Post subject: Re: ugly or now
[quote="wayneg"]Hi everyone i am the 37 yrear old male who who posted at the top of this page who who was unsure of the way i looked.Men call me ugly most women say im handsome.put me out of misery someone i need to get on with my life.here is a pic of me with my lady wife.[url][1]http://img312.imageshack.us/img312/341/picture0025bs.jpg[/1][/url][/ YOU ARE INDEED A GOOD LOOKING MAN I WOULDNT MIND MARRYING YOU BUT I AM SO UGLY YOU WOULDNT LOOK TWICE AT ME KATHY quote]
I'm an ulgy one too, I've been depressed living a very isolated life for years. Weight, stretchmarks, skin disease, toe deformity, on and on. I might look pretty on the outside, but I have hidden uglyness.
God bless you all. Finding Jesus Christ has really helped me. Sometimes praying can be our best counselor. I don't know what the future holds for me.
seeing as how people on here have been posting pictures of themselves for others to judge, i thought i would join the group and get a verdict, becasue for most of my life i have struggled with my weight and appearance in general.
i'm the third one on the left, in the black jacket green top and light blue jeans with red hair. i have no make-up on, those are my scruffy clothes and my hair hasn't been straightened, that's me looking "natural." please someone put me out of my misery, i need an unbiased opinion
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